Wellll hellooooooo, I am a Dr. LaWanda N. Evans! I empower and encourage women to love themselves, to make healthy relationship decisions and positive changes in life that lead to happiness and improvement in their emotional and mental health. I help women transform their love life and avoid relationship pitfalls. If you’re like me, you’ve probably had your share of relationship challenges that caused you a lot of hurt, pain and frustration, and maybe you’re experiencing some of those same feelings now. I’ve been right where you are, I’ve had my share of ups and downs in dating relationships, and there was a time or two when I wanted to be in a relationship with a man who was not ready or wanted to be in a committed relationship. I know what it feels like to feel unappreciated, taken for granted, rejected; to not feel loved, valued or appreciated, and to question yourself, to question who you are, to ask yourself over and over again, “what’s wrong with me” or “am I good enough”. I know those questions all too well.
But one thing I can say…is at some point in your life, you have to get tired of being tired. You have to get tired of being frustrated and investing your time with someone who doesn’t value who you are or knows your worth, and you have to decide that you are tired of being hurt and that you will no longer allow yourself to be a long-term option in someone else’s life.
You have to decide that you want more and you deserve more than what he is willing to offer. You have to know that God wants and has someone much better for you, but you have to be willing to give up the relationship you’re in, to experience the love relationship God has for you.
This is what I had to do, I had to realize, that God didn’t want me crying all night, frustrated, experiencing hurt and pain, questioning myself, questioning who I am and whether or not I was good enough for someone. I had to make a decision about what I wanted and if I was getting what I want by staying in the relationship. I had to assess the relationship and put it in its proper perspective, and accept the truth.
And the truth did set me free…
The breaking point for me was when I was having a conversation with the guy I was dating, and I began asking the same questions, we as women always ask; “where are we, what are we doing, who am I to you, I want to be married”……and he turned to me and said, why would you want to be with someone who constantly tells you he’s not ready.
WOWWWWWW, wake up call, that hit me to the core of my soul, and my eyes were finally open. I got on my knees and said, Lord if you get me out of this, I promise, I will let go, and wait on you.
What I realized was that I wasn’t getting what I wanted by staying in the relationship, recognized that God wanted more for me, became content with being single, and made the choice to let go of the relationship. Now, I’m much happier, I don’t have any relationship drama, I don’t invest my time or energy with guys who are not on the same page as myself, and I’m more content with who I am as a woman and who God has called me to be.
I can say, I am happily single, living life to the fullest, and living the life God has called me to. And it wasn’t easy. It was a process of healing that I went through that works and I want to share it with you so you can break free too.