Being in a Relationship Doesn’t Fix Internal Struggles!
You may love God, have a relationship with God, and be sold out for God, but that doesn’t mean you don’t struggle or have issues or insecurities, and just because you have a relationship with God, doesn’t exempt you from having problems in your relationship. You’re human, and as humans we all have situations, circumstances, and problems that impact our ability to develop a healthy and loving relationship. It’s important to recognize and acknowledge your issues, deal with them, and overcome them so you can learn to develop a healthy relationship, and/or improve your current relationship.
For example, if you’re insecure now, you will be insecure in your relationship. Being in a relationship doesn’t fix insecurities, it only maximizes them, and takes them to another level. If you are insecure about who you are as a person, if you struggle with low self-esteem and self-confidence issues, if you always have something negative to say about yourself, and you have a difficult time accepting compliments, you will continue to struggle in these areas when you get into a relationship.
Being in a relationship doesn’t fix internal struggles, and getting into a relationship when you’re broken, hurt, mad, frustrated, disappointed, and hopeless, will impact your ability to develop a healthy relationship and impact your ability to sustain your current relationship.
Dr. LaWanda N. Evans